The Power of Pursuing Peace
When we’re called to pursue peace with all people, as instructed in Hebrews 12:14, it’s not a passive endeavor. It requires us to take bold action, to initiate efforts to make things right, even when it’s difficult. This pursuit of peace is not about allowing others’ anger to dictate our actions, but rather about acting on behalf of a higher purpose.
The Challenge of Reconciliation
However, we must be realistic about the challenges that come with pursuing peace. When we reach out to someone who has been deeply offended, they may initially reject our efforts. As Proverbs 18:19 reminds us, “A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city, and contentions are like the bars of a castle.” Rebuilding trust takes time, effort, and often involves a painful process for both parties.
A Lesson from a Feisty Bird
I recall a personal experience that taught me a valuable lesson about relationships and reconciliation. My wife and I were caring for our daughter’s pet conure, a bird known for its hostility. Each time I approached the cage, it would squawk and try to bite me. After several attempts at being friendly, I was ready to give up. But my wife, Denise, took a different approach. Despite the bird’s aggression, she persisted in showing it love and kindness. With each feeding, the bird would attack, biting her fingers and causing her pain. Yet, she would softly speak to it, refusing to retaliate. Over time, the bird began to relax, eventually allowing Denise to reach into its cage without attacking. It even perched lovingly on her shoulder, cooing in her ear.
The Power of Unconditional Love
This experience revealed a profound truth about trust and relationships. The bird’s aggression wasn’t the problem; its fear was. By allowing herself to be wounded, Denise established trust with the bird. She won its heart, one wound at a time. This same principle applies to our relationships with others. Trust is not an accident; it’s the result of love that pays a price.
God’s Example of Unconditional Love
This is precisely how God relates to us. Despite our repeated offenses against Him, He chooses not to retaliate. Instead, He shows us mercy, working to restore us to Himself. His kindness leads us to repentance, as Romans 2:4 reminds us. He proves Himself trustworthy, merciful, and loving, knowing that in time, we will come to rest in His goodness.
The Call to Love Unconditionally
As we reflect on God’s example, we’re reminded that we’re called to love others in the same way. Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 13:4, “Love suffers long.” We must be willing to let ourselves be wounded, even repeatedly, in pursuit of healing relationships. By doing so, we prove that our love is real, and our hearts are trustworthy. Only when trust is established can healing begin, whether in families, churches, or communities torn apart by conflict.
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