Supporting Couples Struggling with Infertility
When a couple shares their struggles with infertility, it’s essential to approach the situation with sensitivity and compassion. Rather than offering quick fixes or solutions, our initial response should be to listen and be present. As a supportive community, we must create a safe space for them to open up about their experiences.
The Power of Presence
Being present doesn’t mean offering medical advice unless you’re a qualified professional. It means giving a listening ear, being slow to speak, and receiving what they’re willing to share. This vulnerable admission requires empathy and understanding. By persisting in our presence, we demonstrate loyalty and care, which is essential for building trust.
Avoid Overly Reassuring Words
While it’s natural to want to offer hope and reassurance, we must avoid making promises we can’t keep. Telling a couple that God will certainly give them a child can be damaging and irresponsible. We don’t know God’s plans, and it’s not our place to make promises on His behalf. Instead, we should focus on accompanying them on their journey, rejoicing with them in times of joy, and weeping with them in times of sorrow.
Walking Alongside Couples
The Bible provides guidance on how to support couples struggling with infertility. By exploring what Scripture says about infertility, we can better understand the ethical issues surrounding fertility treatments and reproductive technologies. This knowledge enables us to walk alongside couples with sensitivity and compassion, providing care and support during a difficult time.
A Common Experience
Infertility is more common than we might think, affecting 7-10% of couples. By acknowledging this reality, we can work to create a supportive community that understands the complexities of infertility. By being present, listening, and caring for couples, we can demonstrate the love and compassion of Christ.
About the Author
Matthew Arbo, PhD, is an assistant professor of theological studies and director of the Center for Faith and Public Life at Oklahoma Baptist University. He and his family are members of Frontline Church in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma.
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