The Power of Edifying Words
As followers of Christ, we are called to use our words to build each other up, not tear each other down. In Ephesians 4:29, we are reminded to “let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.”
The Temptation of Gossip
We’ve all been there – catching up with a friend after church, sharing a juicy story about someone who wronged us. It’s easy to justify it as “venting” or “processing,” but deep down, we know it’s not fulfilling. Two women recently found themselves in this exact situation, bonding over their shared frustration but ultimately feeling a pang of guilt.
The Deception of Righteous Indignation
We often disguise gossip as a righteous recounting of events, convincing ourselves that we’re simply seeking validation or support. But the Holy Spirit whispers to us, reminding us that this kind of conversation ultimately leads to relationship death, not life.
A Better Way
So what can we do instead? When the urge to share unsavory news arises, ask yourself: will this information bring life to those who hear it? If not, consider taking a more biblical approach – a direct, loving confrontation (Matthew 18:15-16). And if you need to talk it out, remember that God is always available, always listening.
Trusting God with Our Story
When we choose to gossip, we’re essentially telling God that we don’t trust Him with the outcome of our story. We’re seeking comfort in something that will never truly satisfy. But God is just, and He can be trusted. He has a plan to prosper us, not to harm us.
A Prayer for Purity
Dear God, thank You for reminding me that You have something far better for me than gossip or slander. I trust You to guide me in my conversations, to help me speak life-giving words that honor You. Help me to take every thought and word captive, and release them to You. Amen.
Practical Steps
Next time you’re tempted to gossip, try steering the conversation towards more uplifting topics. If you need to process your situation, consider seeking out a trusted pastor, counselor, or someone who can offer objective guidance. And don’t forget to take it to God, who is always ready to listen and offer His perfect wisdom.
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