Supporting Those with Invisible Struggles
Dear Church,
In your midst, there are individuals and couples facing unseen challenges. One such struggle is infertility, which affects nearly 10% of couples, according to the CDC. This staggering statistic likely includes members of your own congregation.
The Weight of Unseen Pain
Imagine attending Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, or child dedication services as an infertile couple. These celebrations can be a painful reminder of their struggles. Moreover, everyday conversations and casual interactions can become minefields of unintended hurt. It’s essential for your community to acknowledge and support these individuals.
Breaking the Silence
Couples struggling with infertility often feel pressured to keep their experiences private, fearing judgment or repercussions. Your church can help alleviate this fear by offering a safe and non-judgmental space for them to open up. Sometimes, all they need is someone to listen, offer words of affirmation, and provide practical support.
A Call to Leaders
Pastors and elders, it’s crucial to familiarize yourself with artificial reproductive technologies (ARTs) and their implications. Many couples in your congregation may be considering or have already undergone treatments like IVF. Be prepared to address the theological and ethical questions surrounding these issues.
Navigating Complex Issues
Gather with other leaders to explore resources and develop a plan for supporting couples navigating infertility and reproductive technologies. Consider the moral hazards involved in some ARTs and be prepared to articulate pastorally the theological reasons for counseling against them.
Sincerely,
Matt Matthew Arbo
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